Learning to stop comparing yourself with others

I’ve been taking a bit of a break from the blog this past week as I started comparing myself to others and finding I didn’t measure up. I honestly felt like I just had nothing to give and nothing to say. I tend to do things with the tenacity of a bulldog sometimes. I just keep going at something without taking good breaks until I feel totally burnt out and then wonder how I got to that point. I’m trying to recognize those moments when they start to happen and allow myself to take a break when needed.

Comparison is something that most of us do at some point or another in our lives, but need to stop doing. I started comparing my blog to other peoples. Or people who should make a blog because they have a talent the world would love to see.

I’d recently been telling my friend, Silke, that she should make a public blog of for her cake decorating (you can view her Facebook page here: Silks’n’Sweets. I can totally see those wonderfully decorated cakes being repinned all over Pinterest. Then I started thinking about how I didn’t have any wonderful talent like that I could showcase in a blog. I started thinking about others I know that blog who have a specific area they are good in and concentrate on that in their blog.

My friend, Alison, has a food blog – Redhotcenter. And she can take good photos of the food she is making. Unlike your normal cell phone snapped photos people take of the food they are eating for every single meal and posting it on social media – driving the rest of us batty with having to look at yet another shot of your dinner, lunch, breakfast, snack, ect, Alison is a professional food blogger and knows how to take an artsy creative photo of food. She’s earned her right to showcase her food photos on all her social media. (In my opinion, only the food bloggers have earned the right to showcase all the food they are making because they are so good at it!) The rest of you all with your dark, blurry casually snapped cell phone photos of every meal you eat – please just stop already. Once in a blue moon is enough for those kind of photos.

Another friend, Amy, has a wonderful blog, Amy Lynn Andrews on how to get started blogging, and all sorts of social media and blogging tips. She’s good at sussing out all the helpful, pertinent, new up and coming social media tips and tricks. In fact, I turned to her blog for help getting started on my blog. She rocks the blogging, social media world with her tips!

I have another friend, Elissa, who doesn’t blog but is totally crafty and should blog about all the crafts she makes. Again, Pinterest would eat that stuff up! She would need to invest in a good camera, because cell phone photos just leave much to be desired when it comes to professional blogging. But, seriously, that girls got crafting talent!

Another friend, Michelle, writes about autism and neurodiversity on her blog, Michelle Sutton Writesand even has a book out about it. I have an adult child with autism and I couldn’t write a book or blog post about it for the life of me!

And then I took a good look at me. Hmmm. I like books, cats, photography, fashion and acting. I started my blog because I wanted somewhere to showcase my photos. I don’t have any particular cool talent. I’ve got nothing compared to all these gals!

So this past week I’ve been taking a break from the blog and trying to find my way again in the blogging world. I took a walk earlier this week looking for signs of spring. Signs of new life and a new beginning. New hope. And in this time of transition between winter and spring, I can see spring trying to come forth – even though we are still getting cold weather and bits of snow coming down now and then. This season will change. Spring will prevail. New life and new hope will come forth. And I will carry on!

 

Camellia blossom
Camellia blossom

 

Neighborhood book exchange
I was so excited to see someone in my neighborhood put up a book exchange library!!!

 

White flowers
White flowers

 

Deep dark red hellebore
Deep dark red hellebore

 

Pussy willow
Pussy willow

 

Purple crocuses
Purple crocuses

 

As I’ve been telling God my woes about not having any particular area of talent to blog about. This is what I am hearing:

Romans 12:4-8

Just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given us. If a man’s gift is prophesying, let him use it in proportion to his faith. If it is serving, let him serve; if it is encouraging, let him encourage; if it is contributing to the needs of others, let him give generously; if it is leadership, let him govern diligently; if is is showing mercy, let him do it cheerfully.

 

Happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to other people.
Happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to other people.

 

Know that you are enough. You are uniquely you. No one else could be you-er than you.

 

There is no one alive that is youer than you!
There is no one alive that is youer than you!

Hats off to the wonderfully talented ladies in my life that had me comparing myself to them this week, but I refuse wallow in comparison any longer. I’m not you, I am me. Made in His image. For what purpose or plan, I have no idea, but I’m sure I’ll figure it out as I go along.

 

6 tips for picking your own blueberries

Do you have any traditions you do every summer? For my family, we always go blueberry picking every year. The last two years, though, I’ve noticed it’s just my parents and I going off to pick blueberries as soon as the blueberry field is open for picking each season. My sons used to come along, but both of them have dropped off now that they are getting older. My dad tends to go back many times throughout the season to gather more berries which will then be frozen so they have blueberries all year round.

Here are some things to remember when out picking blueberries:

1. Always taste the berries in the area you are picking in to make sure you like them.

2. On the same note, though, don’t overeat them or you’ll pay for it the next day. (Believe me, I know!)

3. Reach for the berries in the middle of the bush – most people won’t bother, and that’s where all the nice juicy plump ones are hiding.

4. Watch out for creepy crawlies!

5. Try to get there at the beginning of the day to avoid the heat and the crowds.

6. If you like rinsing your berries off before freezing the extra ones, make sure you lay them out on a baking sheet lined with paper towels to dry the water off before freezing or you’ll have huge frozen clumps of berries bunched together when you go to use them throughout the year. (I also put the whole tray in the freezer and freeze the berries in a single layer before transferring them to large freezer bags.)

Mostly, enjoy being outside with delicious fresh berries to gobble down!

 

Purple and green
Purple and green

 

Blueberries
Blueberries

 

Blueberry lane
Blueberry lane

 

New blueberries in green and purple!
New blueberries in green and purple!

 

Bucket of berries
Bucket of berries

 

 

Advice from a blueberry
Advice from a blueberry

 

 

And always remember the advice from a blueberry!