How to become the master of your own destiny

Becoming a master of your own destiny isn’t always as easy as it sounds, but there are step you can take to get you charting a course in the right direction. Some of it is up to you, the rest is up to fate.


Red rose bud

Identify steps you can take to go in the direction you want to go in. I.e. Classes you need to get the training you will need to succeed in the path you’ve chosen, or things you may need to do first to get your ‘ducks all lined up in a row’, so to speak.


Pink rose, budding

Next, identify the obstacles in your way: illness, injury, financial, lack of knowledge or training. There are always going to be things you can change and things totally out of your control. Some of these may come up after you’ve started in the right direction. Your goal is to set your sails in the direction you want to go in, but there are always going to be storms in life, rip tides or currents pulling you off your course. Sometimes you need to ride out those times when you’re off course until you can get through them and set your sails in the right direction again.


Orange rose


Figure out how to get through the storms in life. Once you’ve gotten side-tracked by one of life’s storms, look around, figure out a new plan of action to get you out of that time in your life. If you, like me have an injury, you may just need to be doing everything you can to get healed up so you can continue on the path you’ve set before yourself. If you have a terminal illness like cancer, like my mom does, you do everything you can do to fight it. My mom not only goes to chemo and takes her trial drug, she also made diet changes and drinks mineral or spring water because it has more alkalinity in it than regular water. Cancer can’t survive in a  body that is at the right level of alkalinity. In addition to all this she also takes a small amount of baking soda mixed with water to help get the acidic levels in her body down and her alkaline levels back up. Since it is also equally bad to have an too much alkaline in your body, she found some ph strips at the Natural Grocer’s store and uses them to keep track of where she is at. Sometimes, there is only so much you can do to fight the place you are in in your life. Just do what you can.




Don’t be afraid to try new things. Trying new things can be daunting. Usually we aren’t very good at doing something new for the first time and feel uncomfortable being put on the spot not knowing how to do things. Do it anyway. Everyone is a beginner once. Now it’s your turn. Don’t let fear stop you from trying something new. Know that you may fall down over and over again while trying to go in a new direction. Go anyway.




Don’t quit because it’s tough. Keep getting up.Once you are through one of life’s storms, figure out how to get back on track and start heading where you want to go again. Set goals to get going back in the direction you were headed before you went totally off course. Unless, of course, you decide to set your sails for a whole new direction. Then be brave and chart a new course!


Purple hydrangeas


In any case, happy sails to you! And remember to work as if everything depends upon you, because it does; act as if everything depends upon God, because it does.


Work as if everything depends on you; pray as if everything depends on God.


And there’s always the wisdom of the serenity prayer!


The serenity prayer


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8 Tips for fighting allergies

My allergies this spring are acting up like crazy. We are getting enough rain that everything is super green still and there are so many flowers blooming right now, contributing lots of pollen to the air. But I felt the worst after being out at a campground for three days this week. I’d been fine the first two, but by day 3 my eyes were red, itchy and so watery I had tears coming out of them. I was literally crying allergy tears! Then I got super stuffed up all while having my nose run at the same time. And I kept fighting a really bad headache that I’m not sure if it was caused by the allergies or the the heat that day. It definitely wasn’t cause by stress because I was hanging out with the Cool Pool group that day and having a blast doing it.

So, today, I’m rounding up some tips for fighting allergies for any other allergy sufferer out there.

1. Wear Sunglasses to keep the pollen out of your eyes.

The fragrance always stays in the hand that gives the rose.

The fragrance always stays in the hand that gives the rose.


2. Take your shoes off by the door and don’t track the pollen into the house. Since I live in an apartment and my shoes would probably get stolen off my front porch if I left them in the house, I always leave mine by the front door inside the house. I realize the pollen is then in the house with me, but at least nobody is tracking it all over the house on their shoes that way.




3. Wash your hair before going to bed to get any pollen out of it. I don’t wash my hair every day, but did wash it after coming home on two of the three days I was out at the campground. The middle day we were indoors for a good chunk of the day anyway.


Blue hydrangeas


4. Try to stay indoors on dry days when the pollen counts are high – especially on windy days. Obviously, living in a bubble isn’t going to work for the entire allergy season, but you know, as best as you can.


Hosta flowers


5. Leave your windows closed during allergy season. I am not lucky enough to have an air conditioner, so I do not always follow this rule, either. If it’s been a hot day, I want to get as much cool air into the house as possible to cool the house down at night.




6. Wash your pillow cases more often. Yeah. I’m bad about that one. Can’t change them every day, but if I’m not washing my hair that night, I could be leaving pollen on my pillow for the next night, even if I have washed my hair by then.


Pink rose


7. Use the air conditioning in your car rather then opening the windows or vents.


She's on fire!

She’s on fire!


8. Check the pollen counts in your area and plan your day accordingly. Not always feasible because you may have things you planned months ago, but for last minute day outings this could work.

I’ve also heard that eating honey grown locally can help you build up a resistance to allergies. But I’ve never been able to tell if it’s actually working for me. Maybe I’m not eating enough locally grown honey. I wouldn’t recommend it over taking some allergy medication but perhaps in addition to them.


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