The memory garden

We stumbled upon this garden in the fall. It’s called a memory garden. In the center of the garden is a curious little tree with strips of ribbons hanging off it. The strips have peoples names on them. Or they would if the rain hadn’t washed them into illegible smears of ink. You put the name of a loved one who has passed away on the strip of paper and hang it on the tree. Seen through the little gazebo below.

We did a photo shoot here, featured in this article: How to thrift store shop like a pro 

I’d like to go back and take another look at it. Maybe put my moms name on a piece of paper or ribbon and tie it to the tree.

I must say, this grieving stuff is hard. There are days I don’t want to get up and go out the door to work. And others where I get up and get going just fine, only to get there and want to turn around and leave within the first few hours. I keep wanting to stop and get a whole bunch of lottery tickets so I can win the lottery and not go in ever again. Nothing against the place I work. I just don’t want to be there lately. Staying home and wallowing in my grief a bit longer sounds good to me. Maybe it’s better I don’t, but I want to all the same.

I’m finding that I’m feeling angry at God. They were singing a song about the God who saves at church last week. I was pissed off. God didn’t save my mom. I stopped singing and started having an angry conversation with Him in my head. Why didn’t He save her? Why doesn’t He bring her back? I sat there crying angry tears. Perhaps he did save her. It just doesn’t feel like it from here.

I tried to look up the song they were singing last weekend. I hadn’t even heard it right. The chorus goes like this:

You’re the God who stays

You’re the God who stays

You’re the one who runs in my direction

When the whole world walks away

You’re the God who stands

With wide open arms

And you tell me nothing I have ever done can separate my heart

From the God who stays

Wow. My head is such a jumbled up mess right now I hadn’t even heard the words right. The song is titled ‘The God Who Stays’ by Matthew West. So I had to have another cry because He is the God who stays. Despite my pain, my hurt, my sorrow, my anger, my grief. He’s the God who stays.

It’s really hard to tell what will trigger grief. I started crying on the way to work a week ago when the song Maybe it’s Okay by We are Messengers came on. (mentioned here.) I wanted to pull over and turn around and go back home.

My sister and I are both trying to be okay with not being okay right now. This grief thing is a process. It may never be all the way okay again. Or at least not the same. There are moments when I’m okay. And moments when I’m not. There are moments when my B.S. tolerance level is down below zero. Watch out. She-Hulk may emerge when this happens.

Grief sucks… I miss my mom. I want her back already!

To my mom: I know you’re in a better place and free of pain. But I most certainly am not.

Til we meet again in that garden in the sky…

7 ways to embrace the mesh trend in the new year

I love all of the mesh stuff coming out nowadays! This dress caught my eye not only because of the stunning red crushed velvet, but also because of the polka dot mesh details at the top. Super cute!

This post brought to you by Dresslily. All opinions are my own.

This dress arrived on Christmas Eve. I was going to wear it Christmas day because with the beautiful red color, it just screams Christmas. But I didn’t get around to wearing it until the weekend after Christmas. I must say, I love red any time of the year, so this dress could be a cute going-out dress or even a Valentine’s day outfit.

Swiss dot mesh red velvet dress, Dresslily; high heeled hiking boots, Rue21; striped gloves, given to me; leather jacket, old; black reflective sunglasses, Rue21, Fleur de lis tights, old.

Granted the mesh trend has been around for a few years, but I’m really starting to take notice of it.

Several ways to wear mesh are:

If wearing a totally sheer mesh top, a cute lace sports bra can be worn underneath or just a cute satin or silk cami.

You can also layer mesh over a crop top to wear with jeans. 

For a work ready look, pair it over a solid top or wear with a tank top underneath and a blazer in a contrasting color over top.

Mesh overlays or just peek-a-boo mesh would also work for more professional look.

A top or dress with flowing mesh overlays is an everyday, breezy look.

You can also embrace the mesh trend by just wearing mesh socks or tights.

Mesh tops with embroidery, lace or beads is also a fun way to mix it up.

Mostly, have fun with it. And wear it whatever way you are comfortable.

You can also shop more mesh items on Dresslily here:

Happy New Year everyone!

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